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Sunday, November 11, 2007

we all get these types of emails on a daily basis, but usually don't pay any attention to them.

i thought this one was important to post. many of us are so independent and believe that nothing can harm us, that we go about our daily routines, without being aware of our surroundings. But, the mere fact that we are women makes us vulnerable and therefore we must be extra vigilant in this crazy world we live in.

i think it doesn't hurt to be reminded of how to protect ourselves. i once heard (and think it makes perfect sense) that when you read about these tips, its important that you take a few seconds trying to picture yourself in each scenario - the belief is that it plants the image in your mind and should you ever need it, instinct and memory will take over.

anyway, this will be my good deed for the day.


A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were
interviewed on what they
look for in a potential
victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential
victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go
after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or

other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed .
They are also likely to
go after a woman with
long hair . Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing.
They will look for women who's
clothing is easy to
remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around
specifically to cut clothing.

3) Thirdly, they also look for women on their cell phone,
searching through
their purse, or doing other activities
while walking because they are off-guard
and can be
easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the
early morning, between
5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked
is grocery store
parking lots . Number two is office
parking lots/garages. Number three is
public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking
to grab a woman
and quickly move her to another location
where they don't have to worry
about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape
carries a 3-5 year sentence,
but rape with a weapon
is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because
it only takes a minute or two for
them to realize that going after you isn't worth

it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who
have umbrellas ,
or other similar objects that can
be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys

are not a deterrent because you have to get really
close to the attacker to use
them as a weapon. So,
the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are:
If someone is following
behind you on a street or
in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell,

look them in the face and ask them a question , like
what time is it, or
make general small talk: "I can't
believe it is so cold out here," "we're in

for a bad winter."

Now that you've seen their face and could identify
them in
a line-up; you will most likely lose appeal
as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your
hands in front of you and
yell 'STOP' or 'STAY BACK'!

Most of the rapists talked to said they'd leave
a woman alone if she
yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back.
Again, they are looking
for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray, yell 'I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY'
and holding it
out will probably be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with
strength but you can by
outsmarting them. If you are
grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the
either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR
in the upper
inner thigh VERY VERY HARD.

One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used
the underarm pinch on a
guy who was trying to date rape
her and she broke through the skin
and tore out muscle
strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself

in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN .
If you slap
a guy's parts, it is extremely painful.

You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists said
is that they want
a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.

Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his
first two fingers and
bend them back as far as possible
with as much pressure pushing down on them as

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply.

....Always be aware of your surroundings

.... take someone with you if you can and

.... if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it,
go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd
feel much worse if
the guy really was trouble.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest
point on your body.
If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO
Toss it away from you.... chances
are that he is more interested in
your wallet and/or
purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse.


3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car,
kick out the back
tail lights and stick your arm out
the hole and start waving like crazy.
The driver won't
see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after
shopping, eating, working,
etc., and just sit (doing
their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO

THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is
the perfect opportunity
for him to get in on the passenger
side, put a gun to your head, and tell you
where to go.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head
repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead
gun the engine and speed into anything,
wrecking the
car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the

back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the
car crashes bail
out and run. It is better than having
them find your body in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a
parking lot or parking garage:

A. Be aware: look around you, look into your car,
at the passenger side floor,
and in the back seat.

B. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your
car from the passenger door.
Most serial killers
attack their victims by pulling them into their vans

while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your
vehicle and the passenger
side. If a male is sitting
alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to

walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman
to walk you back out.

paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
(Stairwells are horrible

places to be alone and the perfect crime spot.
This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under
his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only
hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times.
And even
then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN,
in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
STOP! It may get you raped or killed.

Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well-educated man,who ALWAYS
played on the sympathies
of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane,
or a limp,
and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his
which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that
her friend heard a crying baby
on her porch the night
before last, and she called the police because it was

late and she thought it was weird. The police told her
"Whatever you do, DO NOT
open the door."

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had
crawled near a window,
and she was worried that it
would crawl to the street and get run over. The

policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way,
DO NOT open the door."

He told her that they think a serial killer has a
baby's cry recorded and uses
it to coax women out
of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby.

He said they have not verified it , but have had
several calls by women saying
that they hear baby's
cries outside their doors when they're home alone at


The Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America 's
Most Wanted when
they profiled a serial killer
Louisiana .


Better Paranoid than dead.

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